It seems our country is becoming more and more selfish every day. In order for us to succeed as a country and for you to succeed as a person, it’s important to learn how not to be selfish.
It seems many people in our country encourage selfishness. But all selfishness does is hurt others, sow discord, and generally make everyone feel less than they are. You will end up losing relationships because trying to be a friend with a selfish person is very hard.
To put an end to this kind of negativity, it’s important to learn how not to be selfish. First, learn to put yourself last.
This concept is very different from that promoted by much of society. Society says to take care of yourself first. Make you number one.
One way of learning how not to be selfish this way would be to let someone go ahead of you in a line. Offer your seat to someone on public transportation. Give someone else first choice in something. You’ll be surprised how good you feel by doing this.
Learning how to see things from other people’s viewpoint is another way of learning how not to be selfish. This is greatly lacking in our society today. Most people aren’t willing to see other’s point of view, no matter if there’s some benefit in what they have to say. Think about how others might feel or think before you say or do anything. If someone has a different way of seeing things than you, think about what they have to say. See if there is some value in it.
Get rid of the entitlement thoughts. No one owes you anything. One unfortunate thing that has come from some probably well-meaning people in our society is protecting what they see as our children’s fragile egos, no matter the cost. This has led to “participation trophies” for everyone who even shows up. It has cheapened the real trophies which kids win and has set the stage for kids thinking they should be given everything they want.
Learning how to lose is important in learning how not to be selfish.
In the martial arts, this is as important a concept as any other. We all have challenges. It may seem that we win some and we lose some but that doesn’t have to be the case. Every one of them helps you and your kids become better people.
Shifu Raymond Ahles at Blue Dragon School of Martial Arts is ready and able to help you in learning how not to be selfish, along with many other life skills. He will monitor your training and sparring and make suggestions when he sees some area in which you may be lacking. Contact him at 201-385-3130 today and get started or started again!